Dear daughter..

This post is dedicated to someone who is amazingly smart, who makes me laugh and feel so blessed to have her in my life. My daughter, my Little Ladyboss.

Dear Little Ladyboss,

Today you turned two. A very small number and also a very short time. But you are special, in just two years of your life, you have created such wonderful experiences in my life. Having a child is always a challenge for anyone, but for me, having a daughter is probably the biggest challenge in my life. As you know, I did not have a close relationship with your grandmother. We quarrelled almost all the time during my teenage years. She didn't know me, never tried to understand me and over the years, I shut my door for her. There was always a distance between us. Sometimes I feel like she was just an acquaintance I have known my whole life. Due to that reason, I was so petrified when I first received the news that I was pregnant with you, a girl. Not because I didn't want you but simply because I was afraid that you and I would become your grandmother and I. Lucky for both of us, we have an amazing man in our lives, your father. He was always telling me that we would have a different story, a much better one compared to mine. We would have a different relationship, unlike what I had with your grandmother because I am not my mother. I always let myself learn and evolve as a human. And my experiences had taught me to be a completely different mother. I promised myself that I will always be there for you, always give you the chance to explain yourself. I will respect you as a human being and I will try to understand your needs.

The first ten years of your life, will be easier and I won't worry much. But when you step into adolescence, that's when the real challenge begins. Your brain will reboot and reprogram itself, and this is nature, something that I won't be able to control. You will start to think differently, you will want to challenge yourself to try new things. Sometimes even the bad ones. You will be extremely tempted to try even though deep down in your subconscious, you know they're bad. You will have your own times with your friends outside the house and I will not be able to control what you do. You may start to challenge my authorities, start yelling and talking back at me or even call me names.  You may think that you are the most judged person in the world. You may even hate the whole world. You may experience different kinds of emotions, far weirder than you have experienced. These are actually normal phases in life that you have to go through. I really have no control over it. But I do hope that when the phase has passed, you will pull yourself together, learn from your experiences and be a stronger person. Therefore, whatever challenge the world is gonna give you, you will have no problem kicking it's ass!

Right now, as I'm writing this, I am still a very young mother. I do not have a lot of parenting experience myself, but I do read a lot, so I hope it helps. Maybe it's not the right time yet to give you any life advices but I just want to share what I've learnt so far.

1. BE GRATEFUL! Be thankful for your life, for the food, for the good health, for the air that you breathe. Be thankful for everyday because every new day is a new life. Be grateful for who and what you are, you are a very special individual.

2. NEVER EVER HATE THEY WAY YOU LOOK! No matter how small, big or short or tall you are, be grateful that you have a pair of legs, a pair or arms, a pair of eyes, a pair of ears, a nose, a mouth and organs that can function normally.

3. BRAINS OVER BEAUTY. It's nice to look pretty, I love to dress myself up too once in a while. But your beauty is not what keeps you alive. Beauty will fade as you grow older, but not your knowledges. Beauty will make people turn and look at you for a second, but your knowledges will make people fall in love with you forever. Beauty will probably get you a rich husband, but with knowledges, you can own a multi billion dollar company!

4. ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS. If one day you happen to think that the world isn't fair. Do something about it, instead of just whining and complaining about how miserable your life is. If you dislike something, do something about it and not just bitch about it on social media. This is probably one of the hardest thing in life, even I am still constantly learning this one.

5. STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE. Don't let others dictate your life, you own your life! Just because someone tells you that you don't look good in pink, doesn't mean you don't. Wear what you want. Just because someone tells you that you are too tiny to be an athlete, doesn't mean that you are. Be anything you want to be! The most important thing is that you try! There will be "Debbie Downers" out there who will always give you negative inputs, trying to pull you down. SCREW THEM! They're not you! Only you can tell what's right and wrong because it's your life and your own experiences.

6. KEEP AN OPEN MIND. ALWAYS. Only through an open mind that you will be able to enjoy life. if you have a narrow mind, you will end up bitching about everything in your life, and you will only limit yourself to new things, now what's the fun in it? Seek out new experiences! Try new things, find new thrills in life! Go to a rave! Smoke some weed! Try those dancing pills! Have fun! Go bungee jumping! Go sky diving! Go see the eclipse! See the aurora! Sleep under the stars! Dive into the ocean! Learn parkour and jump over buildings! Kiss a stranger! Hug a homeless! So many things you can do! And if you keep an open mind, you will see others more positively. Why is that person so boastful? Maybe because he/she actually has a very low self esteem, it is his/her way to boost his/her insecurities. In that case you will stop disliking that person and sympathise him/her instead.

7. HAVE DIGNITY. DO NOT ever sell yourself for something that you can't afford. Your dignity is worth more than all the diamonds in the world! Don't ever for once use your pretty face to get something you want! If you want to have something that you can't afford, use your brains, find out how you can make enough money to own that thing. Any decent man, will love and respect you for your dignity and knowledges than your pretty face.

8. LOVE YOURSELF! When you love yourself, you will be a more confident person, you will know what decision to make. You will have self control and you will not be lost. Embrace what and who you are, then you will be able to spread good energy to people around you. And by doing so, you will definitely have great life!

These are all I can think of right now. Believe me, I am NOT writing this because I see myself as a perfect person who knows it all. These are just some of the things I've learnt so far and I, myself, am still trying and working my ass off to execute them. You will not have to follow them as you are entitled to your own opinions. And I'm sure you will be a far better person than I am. You will be so much smarter than me, I can tell that :) Even now, your father and I are always mesmerised by your intelligence. You always have something up your sleeve, never ran out of ideas, always manage to solve every obstacles you have. And you are only two! Oh my God! The things you can do with such a bright mind like that!

I will not ask to be your friend, because when you grow older, you will talk about some of your most personal matters to your friend, and I guess it will be awkward to talk to me, your mother. But I hope you see me as someone that you can count on, someone you can rely, someone who is always there to listen to your troubles, someone to give you a shoulder to cry on. Someone who is always there when you need a hug, someone who is always there to cook for you when you're hungry. Someone you can share your life stories and experiences with. I promise you, I will be there.

Happy birthday my little ladyboss, I can't wait for you to grow up and live your life! You are going to have an awesome life! I am very sure of that! And you're gonna grow up to be an amazing woman because you have me, your father and your brother to support and love you always :)